Why an Emotional Release is Good For You.

Brenda Adiyiah Blogger

An emotional release is apart of letting go.

There are many reasons why it's better to process emotions and allow yourself the much needed release rather than internalising them.

While many try to battle against the idea, the fact is human beings are emotionally complex creatures. We can feel a wide range of emotions; some of which we experience simultaneously, and that can be triggered by an incredible amount of scenarios.

When people are experiencing several emotions at the same time, it can be really difficult to determine how you truly feel or why you feel that way, especially if they are conflicting. 


Early Life

What makes matters even worse is that it can be extremely difficult for people to engage with their emotions and / or make sense of them when often, as children we were told things like 'everything's fine', 'don't cry' and that 'big boys and girls don't cry' by our elders.

These types of statements are actually detrimental to our understanding and processing of emotions. So much so, that some people find it almost impossible to identify how they truly feel about a given situation, because they have become so closed to their emotions.

Others feel emotions deeply and yet they cannot find a release as they learnt not to cry or react at all. The sad thing is that children usually have a very good understanding of their emotions; they can tell you exactly how they feel and often why that is the case. They usually also usually process negative emotions fairly quickly and can move past it if they situation has changed or something positive has been brought to their attention.  

This starts to change through puberty when hormones begin to play a more active role and social norms dictated by peer pressure becomes evident. To many teenagers, it's not 'cool' to care so much about anything and it's even worse to cry in front of others. As a result, a lot of unresolved issues and emotions remain contained until they are internalised and are displayed through behaviour, attitudes and perception.



We know through scientific study that emotions can have profound effects on the body as well as the mind, such as increases in blood pressure, breathing, appetite, digestion, etc. Emotions that are linked to stress and anxiety such as anger and fear are far more likely to trigger migraines, headaches and fainting. 

When adults experience high stress levels over a long period of time, they become far more at risk of having heart problems, a weakened immune system and in females, menstruation issues. In order to protect the body, it's essential to first protect the mind and spirit. 

That doesn't entail ignoring emotions, but rather to deal with them head on. First, try to identify what it is that you are feeling and what the cause is / possible causes are. From there, you can start to rationalise this and by doing so, begin to process your feelings and reach the point where you can move forward.



This is where emotional intelligence comes into play. If you haven't heard of the term before, you're probably wondering what that means: 

Emotional intelligence - def: the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

Source: Google 

By having good emotional intelligence, you can also easily detect and positively influence the emotions of others. Empathy does in indeed play a big role in this, as it requires the ability to connect and communicate with others about their emotions as well as your own. 

Learning how to manage emotions comes easily to some and not so much to others. What's important is learning and demonstrating self control to avoid disastrous consequences. Those who particularly struggle with feelings of frustration, anger and rage sometimes go to anger management classes, learn yoga or practise meditation.

There are numerous ways in which you can improve your emotional responses. This is not to be confused with having a safe release. Sometimes it is not only necessary but crucial to release your emotions through writing, discussion, crying or creativity. 

Sometimes, the act of creation or being able to write how you feel can make a huge difference, the same with just having a shoulder to cry on things really start to get on top of you. This is perfectly normal, it only becomes an issue when negative feelings are prolonged and there is no change over a significant period of time. I would say this is when it is necessary to look at other options such as therapy.


We all have experiences and times where a safe release is required, communication is usually a big part of that release. The next time you see someone struggling, why not offer a friendly ear or see if they need a hand with something. These small acts of compassion can really go a long way and change someone's day, but also potentially so much more. 


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